... by Winner Adeniran and Bolu Ojedokun
In the journey of marriage, filled with its ups and downs, it’s inevitable to encounter disagreements and misunderstandings along the way. These minor bumps in the road, if left unattended, can escalate and strain the harmony of a marriage. Most of the time, it is the small or minor disagreements that pile up and later out of proportion, if not properly handled. Just as a small kitchen fire can lead to a major accident if neglected, so too can unresolved tensions jeopardize the foundation of a marriage. However, amidst the challenges, there exists a simple yet powerful tool for diffusing tension and fostering unity: humor.
Why Humor?
Humor, often hailed as the best medicine, has a remarkable ability to heal the mind, body, and soul. Proverbs 15:13 beautifully reminds us, “A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit.” As Christians, embodied with the fruits of the spirit including kindness, love, and cheerfulness, humor becomes an invaluable asset in navigating the challenges and difficulties of marriage.
In the hustle and bustle of daily life, trivial matters can often spark minor disagreements between spouses. Whether it’s a debate over household chores or control over the TV remote, these issues have the potential to escalate into full-blown arguments if not approached with love and gentleness. Extending grace to one another, just as God extends His grace to us, along with a healthy dose of humor, can transform these moments of tension into opportunities for laughter and bonding.
Shared laughter, even amid minor tiffs, can create some of the fondest memories in marriage. Couples can turn disagreements into playful banter and make light of their differences. For instance, the story of Mr. and Mrs. A. They were a cozy Christian couple, however, Mr A’s snoring was a source of disagreement between them. After many sleepless nights, Mrs A decided to take matters into her own hands. She decided to record and capture the symphony of snores, along with all the wheezes and whistles. The next morning, she played it for Mr A and it became a funny inside joke, which strengthened the bond between them.
Humor is not just a worldly concept; it’s deeply rooted in our faith. Incorporating more biblical references, we find that laughter and joy are integral to a harmonious life. Colossians 3:14 encapsulates this sentiment, “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them together in perfect unity.” This unity is not devoid of laughter; it’s a harmonious symphony of love and joy.
To implement humor effectively, consider practical tips. Set aside designated times for laughter, share jokes, or find joy in everyday moments. Humor should be a deliberate choice, a shared commitment to maintaining a lighthearted atmosphere even in the face of disagreements.
While humor is a potent tool, it’s essential to acknowledge that some issues require open communication and professional guidance. Humor complements serious discussions but doesn’t replace the need for sincere dialogue and understanding.
Overall, In the tapestry of marriage, where disagreements are inevitable, humor becomes a thread that weaves joy and unity. As you navigate the challenges, remember the words of Ecclesiastes 3:4, “A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.” Embrace the laughter, for it is a gift that enriches the journey of love. Here’s to love, laughter, and a home filled with the joy of the Lord.